~Forgivness~

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Permalink Reply by Shirley Graham on October 14, 2011 at 9:09am

 I personally find turning to God is the only way to find forgivness, have a conversation with him and be honest- put it on his shoulders.   Then a sit down with the person(s) causing you heartaches may help. Spell out in a calm way that they are someone you care for but their actions are hurtful and can not be tolerated. Just let them know you are willing to help them move forward in a positive way.

I'm assuming you aren't speaking of the most severe of emotional, verbal or physical abusers. Many times friends and family who verbally abuse usually do so to fill void in their own life to me. Making little snide remarks to make you feel letdown is their forte. They are actually unhappy people inside, they hurt therefore anyone around them must hurt also. You said 'they walk through life free of pain', but that isn't a fact. They too have pain and haven't come to grip with it either.

But, for whatever reason, allowing God to heal is the only answer I can find.

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Permalink Reply by Kay Van Hoesen on October 15, 2011 at 8:40am

I agree with Shirley. For many people, me included, asking God for strength and wisdom helps. Something I do is write letters to God. I actually sit at my computer and start my letter, like this ...

Dear God,

Today I'm feeling hurt and angry and empty. So and so has hurt me and ... God, I don't know what to do ...

And the strangest thing happens. I actually get answers. I swear. I don't know if it's God talking to me or my higher self, but thoughts, words and answers start coming to me which I then type out. I get sort of a two-way conversation going, and I often find resolution.

It's true, carrying pain and hurt only helps those who hurt us. Letting go of the sorrow, anger, sense of betrayal is not easy, but it is doable. And it's freeing. There's no easy answer for how to let it go, but it can be done. 

 

 

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Permalink Reply by Jennifer McCabe Marino on October 18, 2011 at 2:59pm

as a little girl, we'd fight, forgive, get jealous, forgive, take my ball and go home...5 mins later we were out playing together again. and our mom's didn't worry about their little one's....until a tree falls. i've been in therapy for years and i didn't have the tools or experience to cut the the parts away so i could grow again. so, i prayed to find a wise person, a lightworker, someone who you let it ALL out to....not the pain, tears, rejection but the FEAR, which is the cost of it all...trust... trust that person, then hand the big brown bag to your companion. she carries it under 1 wing, and you under the other. visualize standing at the edge of the grand canyon. you both turn it upside down over the canyon. everything you let go that and all you could climb down to get...but why would you want to, when you went from burdened to light. the last item was heavy. it was the almighty ego.  they both threw it into the middle of the grand canyon. the last thing to go and the hardest....tears of relief, content, serenity.....ohhhh inhale it.  you are presented with a gift. it was so small....and light and the most beautiful box. she didn't want to undo the pretty wrapping and ribbons.  when she lifted the cover and saw a necklace made of gold and gems of the rainbow. they were the remnants from mother earths' transformation of things which no longer serve you on your walk.  the angel put it around her neck and said "the forgiveness was always a gift for you"~~jm

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Permalink Reply by Stacie DeSantis Dorego on October 18, 2011 at 6:49pm

that is so beautiful,where do you find this wise person because threw this journey of trying to find myself again,the ppl around me,whether life long friends,family even a husband have failed to be true..That is prob the worst struggle of all..being in this alone with no one to talk to or help carry the pain..i cant seem to release it..Stacie

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